Wednesday, August 20, 2008


This posting will be different than most of my entries, in that I won't be chronologically listing what I have done since my last posting. Yes, I have done the usual things I always write about, like walking, having dinner with family and friends, working at the museum, and gambling (another loss), but I have been thinking about my subject of this posting since a retired military man at the museum told me he loved me.

Love is used in so many different ways: I love my family, love my pets, love my job, love chocolate, love shopping, love my God, and love my friends.

Most people think friendship is the best. You have to be friends to love or to fall in love (two different things). My love began when I came out of the womb into the loving arms of my mother, this had not developed into a friendship with my mom, but came later throughout my childhood. Everyone can fall in love or love, but friendship has to come first. Without friendship and love it would be hard to exist. I fell in love with my late husband the minute I laid eyes on him. Was that love, friendship, or lust? He was a handsome man!!!! I developed a friendship with him and ended loving and being in love. Next I experienced the love of being a mom myself with my first born son, then the second son. Along the way I had friendships with many people, in the workplace, neighborhood, schools, etc. I grew to love many of them but did not fall in love with them.

Now I understand the differences in friendships, love, and being in love. Love is a bond between two people, friendship is just a form of love or respect for the other person, and being in love and married should be a bond between friendships that last forever. You can't have one without the other.

So, my friend at the museum really was trying to convey to me that he felt a love and respect for me and it had grown into a friendship. I can appreciate the difference and return my friendship to him.

I have many loves and friendships in my life now, but the one person I was in love with, is gone from my life forever. Who knows if I will ever be in love again, but at least the friendships are there and I rely on them each and everyday.

I hope all my loves and friendships read this blog and know I need them.

Author Unknown
FRIENDSHIP is a quiet walk in the park with the one you trust,
LOVE is when you feel like you are the only two around.
FRIENDSHIP is when they gaze into your eyes and you know they care.
LOVE is when they gaze into your eyes and it warms your heart.
FRIENDSHIP is being close even when you are far apart.
LOVE is when you can still feel their hand on your heart when they are not near.
FRIENDSHIP is hoping that they experience the very best.
LOVE is when you bring them the very best.
FRIENDSHIP occupies your mind.
LOVE occupies your soul.
FRIENDSHIP is knowing that you will always try to be there when in need.
LOVE is when you will give up everything to be at their side.
FRIENDSHIP is a warm smile in the winter.
LOVE is a warming touch that sends a pulse through your heart.
LOVE is a beautiful smile to which nothing compares:
A tender laugh, which opens your heart.
A single touch that melts away your fears,
A smell that reminds you of the tenderness of heaven,
A voice that reminds you of the innocence of youth.
FRIENDSHIP can survive without love.
LOVE cannot live without friendship.


Kelly said...

This is such a wonderful post about complete love and friendship and the different stages and forms that each takes on! It is so insightful and full of heartfelt love that comes from your beautiful heart!

As usual, this post is so thought-provoking and I know that all of our lives are much better because you are in them! You bring such joy, kindness and happiness to all of us by being a part of our life!

You are loved and appreciated so much by all of us and we are so thankful for you and how much your being in our life makes such a positive difference!

Judy said...

This is a great post. I have so many great friends that I love but not in the way I would love a spouse or my children. Love takes on many different forms in our lives.